Tag: Family Conflict

Elder Care Mediators

As previously discussed caring for an elderly parent is a challenging job and often comes with family strife.  Conflict between siblings may stem from feuds or roles that are decades old. Or perhaps the conflict may simply be a result of family members facing so many emotionally charged decisions about a person they love.  Whether it’s deciding when to take the keys, move a parent into a facility, or how to manage finances – tension is likely for many.
But how do you know when the tension is too much? And if it is, what do you do about it?  If you feel like you have tried everything, but just can’t seem to come to an agreement on things perhaps it is time to call a mediator.  Professional mediators are trained in conflict resolution and act as a neutral party to help facilitate the decision making process.  They are available to hear all sides of the story and help diffuse the situation.  Mediation is typically cheaper than litigation so it is often a favorable choice.  Ideally, a mediator will help reduce the overall tension and keep the family focused on the goal of doing what is in the best interest of their loved one.
If family relationships feel like they are on the brink of destruction it may be time to consider a mediator.  It just may benefit everyone involved.
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3 Tips for Managing Family Conflict While Caring for an Elderly Relative

As noted previously, caring for an elderly family member can be incredibly stressful.  Often times family conflict arises as a result of the physical, emotional, financial, and spiritual challenges family members face – both individually and collectively.  If the conflict gets out of hand an objective third party mediator may be necessary.  However, there are steps individuals can take to manage the family conflict before rising to that level of need.  Here are a few tips to try to keep in mind as you navigate the process:
1.  Listen.  Truly, honestly listen.  Let family members know you are hearing what they say and are trying to understand their point of view.
2.  Respect.  Remember that emotions are running high for everyone.  Feelings of anger, guilt, hurt, fear, confusion, etc. are likely at the root of what different family members are saying and doing.  With this in mind it may be easier to show some restraint and some respect for others which can ultimately help to diffuse the situation.
3.  Communicate.  Share your feelings openly.  Revisit them when necessary.  As situations change family members need to come together and communicate new problems or decisions.  Break them down piece by piece so that everyone can understand what is at stake.  Refer back to tips 1 and 2 when needed.
No matter what stage of caring for an elderly relative a family is currently in it’s important to remember it doesn’t always have to come down to “my way” or “your way.”  Sometimes middle ground can be found when actively working towards managing conflict and working together.
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